E .E. Cummings
The transition from adolescence to adulthood can be challenging. Moving away from family, developing your own identity and becoming independent is a rewarding but challenging step. Managing the stress of classes, roommates, new job, finances... it can quickly become overwhelming and feel quite lonely.
One of the most common misconceptions going into college is that your dorm will be full of instant friends. Meeting new people and finding the right balance between studying and socializing can be difficult.
Academics can be quite different in college than high school. GPAs don't look quite the same and the need for organization, time management and study skills has increased. The increased freedom requires an increase in responsibility and selfcare.
Sometimes an adjustment in expectations is needed and an awareness that being friendly and respectful are enough to make the relationship work. However, when it isn't reciprocal or feelings of loneliness and being left out creep in it might be time to seek support. Your RA is often a good place to start.
Class time, class size, teaching styles, and grading policies can look very different in college than in high school. There often aren't homework grades and tests may cover large amounts of information. Contact your academic advisor to find out what resources are on campus to assist with time management, organization and tutoring.
Keep in mind that picking a major is not the same as picking a job for life. Most majors encompass a broad range of opportunities. Start with your academic advisor or campus career center to discuss your concerns. Most students can continue to use their campus career centers after graduation.
There are people every where but you may feel all alone. Shifting your focus from seeing people as potential friends rather than strangers can make a difference. Joining clubs and activities on campus or in the community can be a great place to meet friends.
Getting into a budgeting habit can help. However, if sticking to it isn't working or the stress is distracting you from responsibilities it's time to ask for help. The financial aid office can often be of help, but parents are also a great resource when making a budget.
Remember when "welcome to the real word" was just a saying. The adjustment after college graduation can be overwhelming. Not expecting yourself to know everything and accepting help from adults with more experience is needed.
When initial steps are too difficult to take alone or don't seem to be enough help it may be time to seek professional help. Coaching, counseling and therapy can provide direction and support to help manage stress, loneliness, anxiety, depression, adhd, and adjustments to change.
Many clinicians offer both in-person and telehealth visits. Teletherapy can be quite convenient and save time. It can be done between classes or from the office without worrying about the commute. However, it isn't appropriate for everyone. Your clinician will discuss if it is a suitable choice for you.
It may take a few days or several weeks to get an appointment with a therapist. Therefore, it is important to not delay scheduling.
Appointments are not for crisis care. If you, or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis go to the nearest Emergency Room or call 911. If it is a medical emergency CALL 911
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Appointments are NOT intended for crisis care
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis and require immediate assistance call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room